OK guys, I need help. Following on from my last post, I've decided that I want a relationship and so I need to be more proactive in bringing this about. Now I know the argument about it'll happen when it happens and when you least expect it, but for me, right now, I need to go out looking. The problem is I've never done this before - I've never gone in search of a relationship. If something came a-knockin' I always opened the door, but I've never been proactive in seeking someone. So how will I go about this? I've decided to give the internet dating a go. This may not last, but for now, I have to feel like I'm doing something. I realise that I may have to go through 10, 20, 30 mediocre or less dates for every satisfying one date. I'm trying to be as realistic as possible. I'm trying to make my expectations as low as possible so I can only be pleasantly surprised. Now I know there are many internet dating aficionados out there, so what tips do you have for this 40 year old internet dating virgin?
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Check out other guys' profiles to get an idea of how to word your own profile, but I reckon keep it brief(ish) with a bit of humour and include a pic. Just be honest about what you want so you don't attract time wasters. But what would I know? I've just deleted my profile from one of those sites...
Have fun (and let us know how it goes!)
Some great advice from my gay mentor DG (NSSG's b/f)...
1. No face pic, no chat
2. Need a name
3. Need to talk to him first before agreeing to meet (IE get his phone number)
4. Always meet in a public place for the first time
It's worked for me so far. Particularly talking to him first on the phone...online, he can sound great, pix might look great, but you get a really good idea of what he's really like when you speak.
Online dating - it's great if you keep it in perspective; it's one way of meeting guys.
Good luck Campbell! x
Ahhhh online dating... For many men it's the online sex catalog to pick and choose from. For me, it's one of the only ways I meet men because I don't go out to the clubs or bars. Don't believe all you see or read on other profiles. I'm a sucker for nice eyes, so profiles with a face pic usually get my attention online. Be honest, and brief. But take it for what it is, an online ad for you. Good luck. If you want to see my profile on Gaydar it's "Muzbot". It's definitely not an award winning profile. :)
You are going to become the Dating Guy!!! LOL...I dated for around 5 years in search of a relationship. The key is knowing what you are looking for...it makes the search easier. So you want a relationship. What type of guy?? Looks? brains? one to hold your hand when you are sick.
The other thing about dating it is a bit like selling...marketing is everything. You gotta be online, offline, and everywhere. I recommend you join the gay and lesbian business association in melbourne. I met great people that way....check to see if there are any "groups" with your local gay organisation. Get online..in at least 5 sites: gaymatchmaker.com.au, gay.com, rsvp.com.au (yeah gay guys go there..the ones with relationships) and match.com.au
Happy hunting! never too late to date!
Internet dating can be quite beneficial if you know how to "read between the lines", so to speak.
I've met nearly all of my longer-term bf's "online", (including current one of 3 years), and as long as you make your intentions clear, you should meet a lot of new and interesting people.
It's good to have a nice (but not unrealistic) picture, maybe showing you doing something unusual? Can get discussion going.
Mostly it's just experience.. you will know how to find the decent ones online after time... they are there, but sometimes hiding :-)
Hello btw (stumbled across your blog randomly)
Gus
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