I realise that title is a tautology……but….
I went to my first Deb Ball on Saturday night. I don’t want to go into the whole relevance and meaning of the event in contemporary society, but what I was struck by was the amount of boys dancing with each other. The first couple I saw I assumed were a couple and I thought how brave of them. It became obvious however as I saw more and more boys dancing with each other, that it was a case of mates dancing with each other (not discounting the fact that some of them may have been couples – but that is probably my romantic overlay doing some hoping!). These boys were dancing with each other the way girls have always been ‘allowed’ to dance with each other. This dancing was quite tactile, with arms around necks and waists. This gladdened my heart and gave me hope….along with an acknowledgement of loss of not having that sense of freedom when I was that age.
2 comments:
As an older guy who has only relatively recently come out, it has been interesting to observe the behaviours among my 22yo son's friends that are very different from my generation. They all hug each other, regardless of gender, although I have never actually seen guys dancing together. But your observation does not surprise me.
Mal
Wow! I would've automatically assumed dancing with arms around necks and waists would definitely indicate they were gay! I feel sooooo old now! :-)
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